every anti sj comic ever
Xtremely irrational minority person: kill and eat all straights
author self insert: oh my such vulgar language i almost felt a bead of sweat roll down my delicate forehead mmm yes oh my
good rational minority person: Hey, the Heterosexual Community has feelings that matter as much as yours or mine. By spouting such awful things you are literally oppressing people-their rights and privileges are being drained from them as you type on this microblogging site. To quote Dr. Martin Ghandi X, "why c an't we jsut bbe nice uwu"
Xtremely irrational minority person: *pees*
author self insert: thank u good rational minority person. it is a shame not everyone can be as good as u *feed treat*
good rational minority person: woof<p>this is fucking trash lmao</p>

A white girl wore a bindi at Coachella. And, then my social media feeds went berserk. Hashtagging the term “cultural appropriation” follows the outrage and seems to justify it at the same time. Except that it doesn’t.

Cultural appropriation is the adoption of a specific part of one culture by another cultural group. As I (an Indian) sit here, eating my sushi dinner (Japanese) and drinking tea (Chinese), wearing denim jeans (American), and overhearing Brahm’s Lullaby (German) from the baby’s room, I can’t help but think what’s the big deal?

The big deal with cultural appropriation is when the new adoption is void of the significance that it was supposed to have — it strips the religious, historical and cultural context of something and makes it mass-marketable. That’s pretty offensive. The truth is, I wouldn’t be on this side of the debate if we were talking about Native American headdresses, or tattoos of Polynesian tribal iconography, Chinese characters or Celtic bands.

Why shouldn’t the bindi warrant the same kind of response as the other cultural symbols I’ve listed, you ask? Because most South Asians won’t be able to tell you the religious significance of a bindi. Of my informal survey of 50 Hindu women, not one could accurately explain it’s history, religious or spiritual significance. I had to Google it myself, and I’ve been wearing one since before I could walk.

We can’t accuse non-Hindus of turning the bindi into a fashion accessory with little religious meaning because, well, we’ve already done that. We did it long before Vanessa Hudgens in Coachella 2014, long before Selena Gomez at the MTV Awards in 2013, and even before Gwen Stefani in the mid-90s.

Indian statesman Rajan Zed justifies the opposing view as he explains, “[The bindi] is an auspicious religious and spiritual symbol… It is not meant to be thrown around loosely for seductive effects or as a fashion accessory…” If us Indians had preserved the sanctity and holiness of the bindi, Zed’s argument for cultural appropriation would have been airtight. But, the reality is, we haven’t.

The 5,000 year old tradition of adorning my forehead with kumkum just doesn’t seem to align with the current bindi collection in my dresser — the 10-pack, crystal-encrusted, multi-colored stick-on bindis that have been designed to perfectly compliment my outfit. I didn’t happen to pick up these modern-day bindis at a hyper-hipster spot near my new home in California. No. This lot was brought from the motherland itself.

And, that’s just it. Culture evolves. Indians appreciated the beauty of a bindi and brought it into the world of fashion several decades ago. The single red dot that once was, transformed into a multitude of colors and shapes embellished with all the glitz and glamor that is inherent in Bollywood. I don’t recall an uproar when Indian actress Madhuri Dixit’s bindi was no longer a traditional one. Hindus accepted the evolution of this cultural symbol then. And, as the bindi makes it’s way to the foreheads of non-South Asians, we should accept — even celebrate — the continued evolution of this cultural symbol. Not only has it managed to transcend religion and class in a sea of one-billion brown faces, it will now adorn the faces of many more races. And that’s nothing short of amazing.

So, you won’t find this Hindu posting a flaming tweet accusing a white girl of #culturalappropriation. I will say that I’m glad you find this aspect of my culture beautiful. I do too.

Why a Bindi Is NOT an Example of Culture Appropriation 

by Anjali Joshi

(via breannekiele)

beastsandbeingsforjustice:

the-triforce-of-justice:

coronaryay:

sailorsoldiersofjustice:

Jontron ain’t havin’ this guys shit.

But seriously, ask anybody who’s HIV positive, they’ll tell you they aren’t offended that someone doesn’t wanna go out with them, let alone sleep with them.

I remember in one class my teacher invited one of her friends who was diagnosed with HIV in the 80’s. He talked about how it’s always difficult, but he always feels it necessary to confess to whatever girlfriend/boyfriend on 2nd or 3rd date. Most of the time he tells them it’s okay to not be willing to go out with him. He also talked about how he has rarely ever had sex, and almost never willing to sleep with someone. So honestly, people who actually have HIV don’t think people who have a completely natural fear of disease are scum.

~Tuxedo

This is such a fucking lie. You think that because you had one fucking dude who was diagnosed at a time when HIV was actually a death sentence tell you “oh it’s totally OK that I never get to have sex and that people constantly reject me,” you can speak for the entire HIV+ community? Fuck you.

HIV is terrifying. Even now, with modern antivirals, you are still living with an illness that has the potential to destroy your immune system for the rest of your life. How dare people be afraid of it.

The prospect of never getting to date or have sex is deeply fucking hurtful to HIV+ people. It’s so hurtful that a significant minority of poz people refuse to sleep or date anyone who isn’t poz, because the ignorance is too much to handle.

If your partner tells you they have any STD at all, you have the right to refuse to have sex with them. Don’t shit on people who don’t want to have sex with people who are HIV+ - it is a risk some people are not willing to take. Because no matter how safe you are, there’s always a risk of transmission. Would you be this pissy about someone refusing sex to someone who has syphilis or herpes?

If someone who is HIV+ wants to have sex with someone who is not, it is on them to explain that there are ways to be safe. If your viral load is low enough and you’re on antivirals and using a condom, the risk is very low. But you cannot expect people who do not have HIV to know the technicalities of the virus, because are not living with it.

And the kicker is that the NEG4NEG attitude does fuck-all to actually protect anybody, because most transmissions occur due to one person having an undetected HIV infection and an out-of-control viral load.

So you should be advocating for people to get regular STD tests if they’re sexually active, and for everyone to practice safe sex because people both lie about being negative and/or don’t know. Screaming at people who are afraid of getting sick doesn’t help anything at all.

You dumbfucks cluck about disclosure

Disclosure is incredibly important. Not disclosing your known status for any STD is often and very much should be illegal. You are risking another person’s health.

and how NEG4NEG is “just playing it safe!”

Wanting your partner to be STD negative is playing it safe. Of course, you should never just trust someone’s word for it. Always practice safe sex, and if you’re in a relationship, get your partner to go get tested with you.

and ignore the fact that for many, many HIV+ people there wasn’t even the possibility of disclosure, because the person who infected them did not know they were HIV+.

Like you said, this isn’t the 1980s anymore. There is no excuse for not knowing you’re HIV+. Every person who is sexually active ought be tested regularly for STDs. Most STD clinics test for free.

Stop talking about shit you know nothing about.

Hi there. I was trained as a sex educator.

You know for tumblr always preaching about how sex isn’t everything and you don’t need sex to be happy, they sure do act like sex is all that and a bag of potato chips while talking about people not wanting to have sex with someone who is HIV+.

You are not obligated to have sex with anyone, repeat after me. YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE. You could be married to them for 50 years, or their S/O or was a random hook up and a one night stand but decided you didn’t want to have sex.

People with HIV are not special and they do not get to break this rule, if someone doesn’t want to have sex with them all they have to do is move on. Unwanted sexual contact is BAD.

Please stop trying to force people to have sex they don’t want to have because you feel like pity sex somehow makes people with HIV feel better.

-Mod J.D

gaypee:

animalsandtrees:

"Very important. General rule for English speakers - if you don’t do it in the human context, don’t do it in the nonhuman context.
Just make a little effort to say “she or he” or “her or him” if you don’t know the sex. It’s a little effort with a very important social message.
Nonhuman animals are *persons*, not *things*. Therefore, we should refer to a nonhuman animal as a “she” or “he,” never as an “it.””

gaypee:

animalsandtrees:

"Very important. General rule for English speakers - if you don’t do it in the human context, don’t do it in the nonhuman context.

Just make a little effort to say “she or he” or “her or him” if you don’t know the sex. It’s a little effort with a very important social message.

Nonhuman animals are *persons*, not *things*. Therefore, we should refer to a nonhuman animal as a “she” or “he,” never as an “it.””

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eternal-floette:

How long until the 15 year olds take over this post with their garbage

bluesigma:

assortedpureracetears:

socialjust-ish:

bluesigma:

Am I missing something or are they just being fucking racist? Because the others in the article are, like, really tall people with really short people, and super fat people with super thin people. I mean…I can’t see anything ‘mismatched’ about this??
Link.

I don’t know who those two are (if they’re actors, musicians, etc.) but it could be something like their careers are so opposed. Obviously not as extreme as this, but one of them could be a poacher, and the other could be the head of PETA, and so you would just think they would never in a million years date. 
It also appears that the rest of the people aren’t necessarily famous (or they are I don’t know I don’t follow celebrity shenanigans) so it could just be some weird racism thing. But if these two are of celebrity status it might be their respective careers/beliefs. 
But it seems like one random racist photo mixed into all these other ones is a bit odd. I think there must be more to it somehow.

It’s most likely to be the age gap and fame gap because it’s been the butt of the joke over their relationship since they got married years ago, saying how she’s a craddlerobber and all that crap besides being only ten years older, and it was unimagined that they would fall for each other despite being different levels of celebrity.
And that’s Mariah Carey an R&amp;B/pop singer on the left who is black and white and Nick Cannon a rapper and show host on the left who is black.
~Mod KaTePe

Ahhh. I knew who Mariah Carey was, but I didn’t know Nick Cannon. They looked like a similar age to me so I missed the age gap. Thanks!

You&#8217;re welcome!
~Mod KaTePe

bluesigma:

assortedpureracetears:

socialjust-ish:

bluesigma:

Am I missing something or are they just being fucking racist? Because the others in the article are, like, really tall people with really short people, and super fat people with super thin people. I mean…I can’t see anything ‘mismatched’ about this??

Link.

I don’t know who those two are (if they’re actors, musicians, etc.) but it could be something like their careers are so opposed. Obviously not as extreme as this, but one of them could be a poacher, and the other could be the head of PETA, and so you would just think they would never in a million years date. 

It also appears that the rest of the people aren’t necessarily famous (or they are I don’t know I don’t follow celebrity shenanigans) so it could just be some weird racism thing. But if these two are of celebrity status it might be their respective careers/beliefs. 

But it seems like one random racist photo mixed into all these other ones is a bit odd. I think there must be more to it somehow.

It’s most likely to be the age gap and fame gap because it’s been the butt of the joke over their relationship since they got married years ago, saying how she’s a craddlerobber and all that crap besides being only ten years older, and it was unimagined that they would fall for each other despite being different levels of celebrity.

And that’s Mariah Carey an R&B/pop singer on the left who is black and white and Nick Cannon a rapper and show host on the left who is black.

~Mod KaTePe

Ahhh. I knew who Mariah Carey was, but I didn’t know Nick Cannon. They looked like a similar age to me so I missed the age gap. Thanks!

You’re welcome!

~Mod KaTePe

the-unpopular-opinions:

 I like to objectify hot men, and I’m female. Like when I see a hot guy I don’t think about his personality or any of that romantic shit, I just think about how nice it’d be to fuck him. I don’t care if you’re smart and drink tea while reading classics, if you’re attractive I’m already thinking of doing things to you
For example my friend and I were shopping the other day, and this hot guy walked in front of us, and we didn’t say “omg what a sweetheart! I want to date him!! he’d be a great father!!" NO we smirked like creepy perverts and checked him out like sexual deviants. he had a nice ass too and that’s important
And you know what? Plenty of girls do that (or maybe I’m just creepy?)…so next time you’re crying about the objectification of women, think about the stuff you say, especially if you reblog pictures of men with abs and comment “fuck me pls”. 

the-unpopular-opinions:

 I like to objectify hot men, and I’m female. Like when I see a hot guy I don’t think about his personality or any of that romantic shit, I just think about how nice it’d be to fuck him. I don’t care if you’re smart and drink tea while reading classics, if you’re attractive I’m already thinking of doing things to you

For example my friend and I were shopping the other day, and this hot guy walked in front of us, and we didn’t say “omg what a sweetheart! I want to date him!! he’d be a great father!!" NO we smirked like creepy perverts and checked him out like sexual deviants. he had a nice ass too and that’s important

And you know what? Plenty of girls do that (or maybe I’m just creepy?)…so next time you’re crying about the objectification of women, think about the stuff you say, especially if you reblog pictures of men with abs and comment “fuck me pls”. 

socialjust-ish:

bluesigma:

Am I missing something or are they just being fucking racist? Because the others in the article are, like, really tall people with really short people, and super fat people with super thin people. I mean…I can’t see anything ‘mismatched’ about this??
Link.

I don’t know who those two are (if they’re actors, musicians, etc.) but it could be something like their careers are so opposed. Obviously not as extreme as this, but one of them could be a poacher, and the other could be the head of PETA, and so you would just think they would never in a million years date. 
It also appears that the rest of the people aren’t necessarily famous (or they are I don’t know I don’t follow celebrity shenanigans) so it could just be some weird racism thing. But if these two are of celebrity status it might be their respective careers/beliefs. 
But it seems like one random racist photo mixed into all these other ones is a bit odd. I think there must be more to it somehow.

It&#8217;s most likely to be the age gap and fame gap because it&#8217;s been the butt of the joke over their relationship since they got married years ago, saying how she&#8217;s a craddlerobber and all that crap besides being only ten years older, and it was unimagined that they would fall for each other despite being different levels of celebrity.
And that&#8217;s Mariah Carey an R&amp;B/pop singer on the left who is black and white and Nick Cannon a rapper and show host on the left who is black.
~Mod KaTePe

socialjust-ish:

bluesigma:

Am I missing something or are they just being fucking racist? Because the others in the article are, like, really tall people with really short people, and super fat people with super thin people. I mean…I can’t see anything ‘mismatched’ about this??

Link.

I don’t know who those two are (if they’re actors, musicians, etc.) but it could be something like their careers are so opposed. Obviously not as extreme as this, but one of them could be a poacher, and the other could be the head of PETA, and so you would just think they would never in a million years date. 

It also appears that the rest of the people aren’t necessarily famous (or they are I don’t know I don’t follow celebrity shenanigans) so it could just be some weird racism thing. But if these two are of celebrity status it might be their respective careers/beliefs. 

But it seems like one random racist photo mixed into all these other ones is a bit odd. I think there must be more to it somehow.

It’s most likely to be the age gap and fame gap because it’s been the butt of the joke over their relationship since they got married years ago, saying how she’s a craddlerobber and all that crap besides being only ten years older, and it was unimagined that they would fall for each other despite being different levels of celebrity.

And that’s Mariah Carey an R&B/pop singer on the left who is black and white and Nick Cannon a rapper and show host on the left who is black.

~Mod KaTePe

i-was-a-teenage-anarchist:

archmasterjazzy:

linzstuck:

posts saying white cis males suck

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posts saying all men suck

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friends reblogging those posts

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The last one hit me hard. 

Yeah if you reblog that shit, you’re getting unfollowed because you are no friend of mine. Bye~

I go to a dominantly black school (early college) in the south. I identify myself as mixed because BOTH of my parents are biracial. The students always say I'm too dark to be mixed and that my hair is fake. (It's super curly) They also say if I have an ounce of black, that I can only claim black. What should I do?
Anonymous

weareallmixedup:

Tell them to mind their own damn business. That is fucking disgusting. You should not have to prove yourself to anyone. I mean, roll up with your entire family tree if you wanna, lol, but you shouldn’t have to.

Sidenote: in regards to the person who sent us an ask recently about how our use of the word monoracial for poc makes them uncomfortable: THIS is why I use the word monoracial when I am talking about non-mixed poc. They alienate us when we don’t fit into whatever racial binary they think that we should, just like white people do. 

—Veronica